While it can be tempting to present yourself as greater than you are –i.e. $100, 000 richer, 5 inches taller, 30 pounds slimmer- eventually your matchmaker and your future date are going to realize who you really are. Eventually the dishonesty will destroy the relationship and you’ll be back to where you started, single. Instead, focus on accentuating the positive qualities that you do have, and actively working on things about yourself you wish to improve.
2. You Have to do the Work
Hiring a matchmaker does not mean that you skip all the steps that lead up to a long term commitment. You will still be expected to bring your “A” game to your dates, make the effort to share about yourself and get to know your dates, and continue making self-improvements. Matchmakers do the introduction, but the quality of the relationship you build is still up to you.
3. You Have to be Ready For Commitment
If you are someone that likes one night stands and casual hook ups, matchmaking is not for you. In fact, the people that you would be introduced to are using a matchmaker to specifically avoid people like you. It’s an expensive and time consuming commitment that will be a waste of time for you and your potential dates if you don’t take the process seriously.
4. You Have to be Financially Stable
While matchmaking services are affordable, they are still a meaningful investment into your future. And like anything in life, people who seek out professional matchmakers tend to be financially stable, professionals who are looking for a partner on their level. They are also people that understand that investing in themselves with a matchmaker (much like they invest in themselves with their education and appearance) is an investment that pays off significantly in the long run.
5. You Have to be Open
You need to believe in love, in relationships and the possibility of finding a partner who makes you happy. Understand that you will draw to yourself what you believe and if you believe the most negatives aspects of the process, that’s what you will get. Instead, start to imagine how easily love can come to you, and how your future happiness is attainable. Remember, as always – you deserve love, and you will get it.