I still remember the confused look on my friends, coworkers and family’s faces when I told them what business I wanted to go into. Most of them had never heard of a matchmaker, and I could tell by their unenthusiastic faces that they didn’t think it was one of my better ideas.
I understood exactly where they were coming from. The idea of hiring someone who would introduce you to other people does sound like an extremely bizarre concept IF you didn’t know there are a lot of individuals, agencies and firms who have been practicing this trade for decades. Oh yes, I said decades.
And it does make sense when you really stop to think about it. Think of your friend, or pastor, or aunt who has tried to facilitate an introduction between you and someone they just knew would be a perfect match. It’s not any different, except that a matchmaker has dozens of potential matches.
Still in doubt? Well then continue scrolling down to learn more about what matchmaking is, and to find my top 9 reasons to hire a matchmaker.
This is the top reason (for me anyways) to hire a matchmaker as opposed to going on a dating website. With online dating, you’re almost guaranteed not to meet anyone unless you have a picture(s) of yourself on your profile. And while the idea of online dating has become less taboo over the years, there are many people who would still prefer not to have their private information posted on public websites for the world to see.
With a matchmaker, your private information gets shown to only the few people who are ready to make a commitment. No sharing information with people who are merely passing the evening roaming through random people’s profiles.
2. Serious Clients only
I’m always careful not to knock online dating. That’s because I used online dating services for a long time back when I was single, and actually had quite a lot of fun doing so. Anyone who knows me, knows I’m not exactly the life of the party, but I love the opportunity to get to know peoples stories one on one. So for me, the idea of meeting people and listening to their life stories was intriguing, regardless of whether I felt there was potential for a relationship. However, I often didn’t walk away feeling like there was potential for a relationship, for different reasons. Some of the people I met, I could tell right away were only “testing the waters” after coming out of a major relationship or even marriage. Others were using the dating service as a way to “hook up” with women regardless of whether that women was looking for a relationship.
Matchmaking services don’t come at online dating prices. People invest in a matchmaker when they are serious about making a lasting commitment. And matchmakers take the time to find out who you are, you’re wants and needs. Consequently, you may get fewer matches, but those matches are usually more in line with what you’re looking for.
3. You Work One on One with a Consultant
One of the first, and most important steps happens with you and your consultant when you first hire them is to find out as much about you as they can. They’ll ask about your education, family, preferences, hobbies and goals. They’ll also take the time to understand what you’re looking for in a partner when it comes to age, spirituality, and lifestyle. This means you’ll be matched up with people who fit the specific criteria you’re looking for, and with someone who’s looking specifically for you too.
4. You Get Feedback
Have you ever had the best first date? I’m talking you come home from that date and starting picking out your wedding dress, tuxedo or wedding venue? And then you wait and wait to hear back from the person, or even worse contact them and never get a call back?
It can be discouraging to feel like you made a connection with someone and never understand why you don’t hear from them again. With a matchmaker, you have a go between who can give you feedback on what may have gone wrong. Having that feedback gives you a chance to make what may be necessary changes, learn more about yourself, and evolve. A matchmaker might also help you understand unknown patters you may be using to sabotage your romantic life.
But even better than hearing feedback about yourself, you get to give your feedback as to how the date went. This information will help your matchmaking consultant make better choices for you in the future.
5. High Caliber Clientele
Most people you talk to have probably never heard of a matchmaker, a lot will have no idea what they do, and fewer still will find the idea of paying someone to find love a waste. But those who are willing to invest their money into finding a lasting relationship are those people who understand the idea of paying for specialty services. They don’t consider giving money to someone who has a specialized skill a waste, because they have the money to give. This type of client is usually of a higher caliber –lawyers, doctors, and other professionals- who have a lot to offer in a relationship.
6. No Awkwardness here
For those of you who are like I used to be, who struggle to make your own introductions, who are introverted and prefer to socialize with people you know, meeting new people can be a chore. With a matchmaker, you have someone who can be bold on your behalf. Its like being set up on a blind date with someone who’s as motivated to find a relationship as you are, where there’s mutual attraction and initial admiration. You have a middle person who can navigate any awkwardness, and smooth over any misunderstandings that occur in the beginning stages of relationships.
On top of all this, you get to skip the most awkward aspect of dating – rejecting those you don’t feel are a good fit.
7. Introductions Guaranteed
I remember back when I was single, going to a church organized event for singles. Well I didn’t even make it past the door! As I was walking through the parking lot to the building, I saw a couple of ladies walk out of the building towards their car. They asked if I was going to the event, and when I said yes, they told me “well you’re definitely not going to meet Mr. Right in there.” The event was full of women.
You might go to an event, take a class or meet up with friends at a bar with the intention of meeting someone new, only to come home empty handed. You may have seen people but were to shy to approach them, or there may have just been no eligible matches for you.
With a matchmaker, you know going in how many/how often you’ll be introduced to someone new. It may be once a month, once a week, or 3 matches upfront. No guessing, or hope that fades to dust.
8. You’re forced to expand your horizons
Another good aspect (well in theory at least if not in practice) is that you have an honest supporter who can help open you’re eyes to potential matches you might otherwise have missed. Matchmaking coaches can help you see things from a new perspective, which encourages you to open you’re circle -and ultimately your heart to new people.
9. Additional support
When you hire a matchmaker, you’re going to get feedback on all aspects of your life related to dating. That includes your personal style -wardrobe, hair makeup; conversation starters and topics to avoid; self-sabotage and other things that could impact your ability to make a good match.